After taking a year long hiatus from teaching pole classes (mainly because of having a baby and stuff like that…) I’m back at it!
And boy, did I miss it! But let me tell you something I didn’t miss – seeing women who cut themselves short. And even while I’ve been away from teaching, I’ve been busy promoting Aradia, and I see it in general discussion too. “Hey, what do you do?” “Oh, well I own a Pole Dancing studio.” “Oh Goodness, I could NEVER do that!”

In classes that I teach (especially parties, or trial classes), it often looks like this:

“Okay ladies. We’re going to try a strength move. This is how we do it!”
**Completes strength move**

BUT there’s always that one person – the one who you can tell – they’ve been cutting themselves short their entire lives. Not only do the moan and groan about the move, but they don’t even ATTEMPT it.
And I ask “but why?

Why do you cut yourself short? Are you in fear of risking not instantly being good at it? risk
I’ll let you in on a little secret – I wasn’t always good at it. And I’m not just talking about pole dancing here. I haven’t been good at cooking, mathematics, confrontation, running, swimming, painting my nails, or even perfecting my eyebrow shape. But I took the risk in trying all of these things. Some of them I hated, some of them I still suck at, but I do them anyways (apparently you need to cook in order to survive? Yeah, not a fan of that idea).

So yes, I’m biased, and I think that pole dancing is the best thing since sliced bread. Not only is it a great physical activity, but it has actually played a crucial role in my mental health, overall well-being, and confidence. While you’ll often hear me spreading the physical benefits of pole dancing, as I try to educate the general public that it’s much more than “sensual dancing,” I also do deeply appreciate the sensual side of it.

So many women are ashamed to allow themselves to feel sexy, and this makes me feel incredibly sad. They cut themselves short.


love yourself

Whether you’re a mom with extra skin and stretch marks, 60 years old and climbing, overweight, underweight, whatever label you want to paste on yourself – YOU DESERVE to feel sexy, and to feel good about yourself. You deserve to LOVE your body, and the skin that you’re in. You deserve to learn new skills at any age – to teach your body and mind new tricks, and to HAVE FUN.
This is truly your life. You write the story. You live the story.

Live it to the fullest, and dance on that pole. Dance!