Posted onDecember 8, 2017 by email@example.com
I started in Sept 2014 at Whyte.
I wanted to treat myself to an early birthday present, and my ultra conservative mom had suggested it as a fun way to burn calories. I also had taken some burlesque classes and wanted to branch out.
I was really worried I was going to be extremely awkward. I’ve always been bigger, so I was also worried I wouldn’t be able to doing any of the neat tricks like you see online.
I also was EXTREMELY scared of taking my clothes off or wearing just shorts and a sports bra like some of the people I saw dancing online. What if someone thought I was too big to be in class? It was all really silly, but I had never seen someone my size dance before.
I really sucked. I had picked up some techniques from burlesque but when I started, we didn’t do too much in the “sexy” Department. I had no flow whatsoever and I wasn’t as strong in the same ways everyone else was. There were several gymnasts in my first class and I was so nervous because they picked up everything so fast!
On the plus side, everyone was extremely friendly and no one cared about my size. We were all new to the class and we were all their to learn.
Pole is a very emotionally supportive sport/fitness class. Every week you share a room with people who you can pour your heart out to, and get only love and compassion back. It’s actually so cathartic on a stressful week.
As well, Pole is EXTREMELY inclusive. I’ve met so many people from all walks of life and it’s so inspiring to hear them share their stories.
I don’t think you can take even one pole class and not be changed a little! I mean, Pole has become an integral part of my life, weekly routine, and being. It has really changed my entire life.
To be more specific, Pole has really made me feel comfortable with my body. We can’t always have good positive body days, but the support and nurturing of my class and instructors has really pushed me to be more kind with what I have. You only have once body.
As well, Pole taught me to face my fears head on. Physically, pole dancers face moves that scare them. I’m personally still terrified of drops and lay backs. But we always seem to still face them head on without much hesitation. This idea carried on into my normal life, where now I realize I’m honestly the only person creating the exaggerated fear inside me. Sure, things can be scary. But you still have to tackle them, and give it a shot.
Besides buying properly fitting pole clothes? I find I struggle reminding myself that everyone learns and succeeds at a different pace. Just because I struggle and fail at a move my friends can get their first go, doesn’t mean I’m failing overall. I’m still struggling with “beginner” moves like the helicopter, sleeping beauty, and leg hangs, but you have to keep reminding yourself that it does improve more and more every day if you keep trying.
I think the most positive thing about pole is that inclusiveness and it’s ability to bring good people together. It’s so easy to bond with someone over a pair of Pleaser heels, or new tricks you see on Instagram. All of the “popular” Pole people are very down to earth and love to chat to anyone who reaches out. There isn’t any of the inflated “stardom” you see in other sports, and it makes it feel like an extremely large family.
If you’ve ever wanted to try pole and had reservations about your body type/abilities/fitness, you should definitely try a class or two. Pole isn’t defined by its stereotypes and perceived taboos— it’s really about your own journey and what you want from your classes. It could be a fitness routine that keeps you motivated. It could be a way to understand your sexuality. It could even just be a getaway from your life a few times a week. Whatever it is for you, know that it’s going to be a positive experience and it will change you.