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Young Children and Pole Dancing

Pole Dancing and Children?!? Yes, you read that right – you probably never would have thought you’d hear those two words in the same sentence! But that’s okay, I’m not here to talk about children’s pole classes (that’s another discussion in itself). Instead, I would like to discuss the views that children might hold when they learn that their parents are involved in a pole class.

Now step into the mind of a pole dancing parent – we are grateful to have finally found a fitness class that is fun and exciting. We’ve learned to step out of our comfort zone, challenge ourselves, and embrace our newly-found confidence!
(I should quickly mention that I myself am not a parent, but I will discuss this in a moment)

That’s what this blog post is all about, and I’d like to help you – the general public, see it for what it really is. Nobody is learning pole fitness in some shady night-club backroom with dim lighting, and enough fog to make it smell like a laser-tag course. In fact, we are a gym that has vertical gymnastics bars (that’s what kids really think!), with kettle bells, resistance bands, step climbers, and mirrors!

I recall a few years ago having a sit-down discussion with a young-adult pastor at my church. We discussed my new embankment on becoming a business owner – and that of a pole dancing franchise. He said “Sweet, when can my wife sign up?” It was awesome to see his understanding of the sport, but his wife didn’t seem to keen. In fact, she said “Aren’t you worried about what your future children will think?” At the time, I didn’t fully have a response for her, as kids weren’t on my mind at all. But today, here is my response.

Yes of course I care what my future children will think! What parent doesn’t? I care that they think of me as a caring, loving mother. A woman that is strong, independent, smart, and funny. A woman that holds good relationships, understands responsibility, and exudes confidence. Because if I’m a mother that has all those qualities, then hopefully they will be passed down to benefit my children as well. And this is exactly what pole fitness has given me, and has created an excitement to raise my future children.

Understandably,  I’m a bit older now, so clearly it takes time to find your place in the world. As was my issue throughout adolescence and young adulthood, but I never quite felt like I knew where I was going. I had goals and ambitions to help others, but I had yet to feel like the strong, confident woman that I am now. I am thankful that pole fitness has challenged me to step out of my comfort zone, challenge my body with things that I never deemed possible for myself, fall – and learn to pick myself up again.

So yes, when I have children, I will be glad if they want to come see mommy teach one of her pole dancing classes. They will see me:
1. leading a group of women that are working towards the same goals
2. creating fun working relationships
3.  fall down and pick myself up again
4. attempt things that won’t work right away, but we try again anyway.
5. encourage other people in my class, because we want everybody to succeed
6. share my knowledge and skills with other people
7. make time for myself to do something that I enjoy
8. appreciate my body, and take time for fitness

The list could indefinitely go on, and on. I have also been inspired to write this blog from some of the lovely moms that bring their children to our pole classes. I have taken note that these children are attentive as to what their mom is participating in, and they love every second of it. There was this little 4 year old girl in my class that said “Chantelle! Look, my mom just went upsidown!!” She was so proud of her mom, and excited to see her achieving something new. (She even encourages the other ladies in class when they’re practicing their upsidown skills too!) The little girl has the advantage of seeing her mom take some time for herself, get involved with fitness, learn a new skill, and attempt to try and conquer new things!

So tell me now if you see anything wrong with this picture? I certainly don’t!

How Pole Dancing has changed my way of thinking

Posted on by Chantelle Beasley

How Pole Dancing Has Changed My Way of Thinking:

These days you’ll often hear me speaking about women feeling empowered, sexy, and beautiful in their own skin. While it might be annoying to some people that I’m constantly sharing my feelings of empowerment, I feel it needs to be done. Why? Because I want everybody to feel the way that I do – because I wasn’t living life to my full potential prior to this feeling! I was the girl that went to the gym because I had to, not because I wanted to. I didn’t care about fitness, or being healthy, I just wanted to be skinny. I wanted to look like any other girl; as long as it wasn’t me. How can I change my hair, my thighs that rub together, my chicken cutlets, my acne prone skin, my tummy, my everything? Well apparently what I needed to change most was my ATTITUDE.

When I decided to take pole fitness classes, I just thought it would be a hell of a good time. I wasn’t really expecting anything physical. The best workout I got in my first class was my abs, from basically laughing at myself and thinking “Dear lord, what am I doing in this class? I am not sexy, in fact, I’m extremely awkward!”

But I remember looking at my instructors, and thinking “Wow, what beauty, what grace, what confidence!” If one day I could be anywhere near those girls, then I would be happy – hopefully. Their glowing confidence is what made them beautiful – even with their different colored hairstyles, thicker thighs and bellies, small bosoms. They loved the skin they were in, and everyone could see it.

I continued with pole while my fiance was in Afghanistan to pass the time. It went from me wanting to learn a little bit more about being and feeling sexy, to earning tricks! Each trick I worked hard for, and then earned, was an inexplicable feeling. Fast forward four years, and I now own 3 studio locations. I preach this because it works. I have 16 beautiful instructors who feel just as empowered as I do. We can walk into a room, and are excited to MEET new people, and share so many interesting things about ourselves. We are proud! We are strong, we are fit. We no longer focus on losing pounds and inches, as we now look forward to exploring the new amazing things that our body can do. How could you  NOT gain confidence in yourself when you can do crazy tricks that others are in awe of? And I’m not trying to boast that I’m amazing because I can do something that other’s can’t – because eventually, everybody is capable of exactly what I’m doing. I have no dance, gymnastics, or fitness background at all!SO anyways – the reason for this blog stems from a tradeshow that I did this weekend.

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